I was married for 181/2 years, been divorced for 10 months, we both have dated and had a relationship with others, we are trying to reconcile but its becoming very difficult!
She was very controlling and demanding and I didnt pay enough attention to her( somthing I know sense reading the book) and let her have her way.
I always felt like a seventh grader in my own house.
Sense Christmas we have started going to counciling ( first session) and I have read the book twice, I seen were I made alot of mistakes by not understanding her feeling.
The problem is, we have been seeing just each other sense Christmas, which has been great, I've closed all doors to women I talked with in my past, I even deleted my myspace page, match page, I deleted phone numbers and names from my cell phone, and I told her I was doing this so she would know I was committed to her. She deleted her yahoo & Match, but kept her Myspace page which she has alot of guys she dated still on her friends list, with one that she dated several times and was talking about dating after the holidays, before we started talking and seeing each other again, and refuses to delete.
Heres the problem, she started asking me about alot of things that happened after we divorced, I lied about some, I thought that things that happened in the past should stay in the past, well a few days later she started asking me about phone numbers and dates and places, which puzzled me, I told the truth about everything she asked, come to find out she had my password to see my phone records and was just seeing if I would tell her the truth about the things she asked. I got mad but I told her the truth, now she keeps pushing asking about numbers and persons that I dont really have the answers for I deleted all the names and numbers, I really only dated a couple, but txt message several which I never met.
I'm to the point now that I think that she only wanted to find out answers and find out who I was talking to, yes she is that controlling! I've committed to change, but I dont see change in her, I want to reconcile our marriage but I fear she will always not trust me because I lied to her, what do I do? I know you dont know the whole story, I admit I was wrong for lying, but the things that we are arguing about happened while we were divorced.
She made the point to tell me about the relationships she had and all the details about the relationship, which I wish I never knew!
What do I do? We are already divorced I have my own place, and I dont have to put up with the stuff I use to put up with.
Pray for me that God shows me the path that I should take. |