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03/10/2009 9:41 PM  
I have been married for almost 25 years. My husband has become a very self-focused person who often behaves irrationally. He blows up verbally--but we never know what will set him off. The kids & I are stressed not knowing what his mood will be today. He crossed the line and grabbed our teenage son my the throat. He is now out of the house until steps in counseling assure me kids are safe physically, emotionally & spiritually. Ironically, he says I usually do most of the ways to reflect respect, love, etc. in the book. I have led women's groups and never allow them to become complaining sessions about our husbands. He says he loves me & the kids, but no plan to stop being so volatile. I would have lived with the pain, but must protect my kids. The teenagers would rather die than talk to him about anything they really care about. Loves the kids when they are young & idolize him. I am praying, reading & trying. But he sits in self-pity and won't get help. I don't know if I do respect him, beyond as I respect all people as children of God, even if they don't admit it. I try to be respectful whenever I can, even when I have to point out where he's wrong. What now?
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03/12/2009 3:00 PM  
The deciding factor with me was when I made the decision to love my bride with out condition no matter how she treated me.

At that point the love of the Lord Jesus Christ flooded me.  I began to change.

Just this last year we went to see "Fireproof".  I cried through the whole movie.  Everything that he did I had done.  Every change that he made, I was making.  In 2 hours, I relived the last 9 years of my life.  I was emotionally spent by the time the movie was over.

Whether or not your spouse changes does not have any bearing on the pressence of the Holy Spirit inside of yourself.  That in itself, is worth loving her as Christ loves the church.

I would imagine it would be the same for you.  Respecting him as you would respect Christ will probably do more for you than for him.  But what will happen in you will be worth it!

It won't happen over night.

The reason I am so excited about Shaunti's book is that it was the clincher for everything that I had gone through.  It brought everything together in a language I could understand and after nine years it made sense of what I was already doing.
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03/27/2009 1:57 AM  
Posted By tribble64 on 03/10/2009 9:41 PM
I have been married for almost 25 years. I try to be respectful whenever I can, even when I have to point out where he's wrong. What now?
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